Tag Archives: relationships

Cacophonic

19 Aug

My new word for the day.  Love this word.

Know folks who “grate” on you?  I do.  I have them in my family. I was raised in Cacophony(discord)…and I learned it very well.

How do you deal with it?  Heck,  I did not even know about it.  I thought is was “modern, righteous, upscale, perspicacious.”   I had no idea it was all coming from unhappiness and inabilities to cope.  I copied…I mimicked…I became.  I was good at it…and loved the founders of it…my prestigious Aunt etc.

I have no clue why it started to “grate”…and show itself as cacophonic.   I only know I reached a point where I could not handle it…take it…deal with it…be silent about it…any longer.

I did not see that coming.  Honestly!  My perfect world, my organized and acceptable world, fell completely apart.

It has been almost a year.  I have been “kicked to the curb” by many of my “known” cacophonists. (new word…love it…) Yet, I am strangely very happy about the freedom I am experiencing.  One of my favorite phrases now, taken from my son(who seemed to know all about this always)  is…”does it matter, anyway?”  Sort of like my favorite poetess….Mary Engelbreit, in her famous words…”Get over it and Get on with it!”.

Do I feel guilty about loosing my “past”?  Of course I do!  But, as in all things….God was there first and gave us these words…”Warn a divisive person once, and then warn him a second time. After that, have nothing to do with him.”  Titus 3: 10

So I will continue on my path, ( which is becoming clearer every day).  Do I believe the “cacophonists” are lost?  Not at all…I just know it is not MY place to try to deal with them.

Belonging to Jesus

15 Aug

“For we don’t live for ourselves or die for ourselves.   If we live, it’s to honor the Lord. And if we die, it’s to honor the Lord. So whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord.   Christ died and rose again for this very purpose—to be Lord both of the living and of the dead.”  Romans 14: 7-9

Jesus knew ahead of time….from the beginning, that we would be his.  He knew and knows who believes and who won’t ever.  He still gives us plenty of room to change…plenty of room to be headed for Glory.

Whatever we do….believe or not, love or not, become or not…we belong to Jesus.  Every soul…atheist,Jew, Methodist, Catholic…etc…each and every one of us….belongs to Jesus.  Will we all be saved?  NO…it tells us that. Can we all be saved?  Yes, it tells us that too.

A dear friend passed away last week.  A person, I believe at times, God put on earth especially for my salvation.  Did I already know about Jesus?  Yes.  Did I already believe in His death and resurrection?  Yes!  Was I committed?  No.

You ask, what does that have to do with it?  Everything.  It is not just about believing in the events that matter so much.  It is the living with conviction…the believing in the worst of times…the sharing Jesus’ love with our friends and foes.  My friend was committed…she was sure…she was giving…she was loving…she was honestly loving those God sent into her life.  She was willing to let God…be God.  All she wanted in life…and in death…was to serve him.  Not words folks.  Not an idea to exclaim…She was.

I had no idea what all that meant.  I had never seen it much in action…not as an adult at any rate.  It made a profound impact on my life.

Not everyone is lovable…not every one will open up to you ….or be willing to enter this “love” with you…but maybe…they will for someone who will “come into their lives”  just like my dear friend did in mine.

Mom…

11 Aug

“Dear woman, why do you involve me?” Jesus replied. “My time has not yet come.” His mother said to the servants, “Do whatever he tells you” (John 2:4-5).

Moms…a very important part of our lives, our dreams…our beliefs.  Jesus was no different it seems.  His Mom, Mary, was a huge part of who He, the man,  was.

“Why do you involve me?”  He said….”My time has not yet come.”  He said.  Well,  Mary said something different…and Jesus honored her.  The God and Man, her son, honored her…by acquiescing.   She was His Mom, after all.

She carried a lot of weight.  Even the servants knew she was someone to follow.  Did the servants argue?  Did they brush off her requests?  Were they skeptical?…Not at all!  Mary said, Do as Jesus says and they had enough faith in Mary’s  faith…to do that.  After all,  it takes faith for miracles to happen.

The first miracle.  Mom, Faith, an emergency…and Jesus.

Insights, visions, and fruit salad.

18 Jul

This has been a week of insights….not always what I want to know….visions…not always what I want to see….and fruit salad….I would much rather have tacos.

“Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness of other people.”….Carl Jung

It is oh….so easy to know how others fail us….yet, we have a hard time knowing how badly we really fail ourselves.  (*what we know about others is merely the transference of ourselves…on them.  ) Awesome don’t you think?    You must know your own dirt….it ain’t pretty folks….but it is real.  It will ground you to what is good….this “knowing” your own dirt.  It is not to be afraid of, but is to be embraced.  Funny thing, when you “know” your own “dirt” the other guy’s dirt makes more sense and really isn’t so bad.

“The question is not what you look at, but what you see.”…Henry David Thoreau

“I shut my eyes in order to see”….Paul Gauguin

If you don’t look at something….you surely won’t see it.  If you “see” in your mind…what it is…you may avoid looking at it….love this.  Fear again, will keep us from seeing all the wonders and good because we refused to look at what we are.  Seeing and understanding connections starts in seeing and understanding what we are connecting…Us and Them.  And Us needs to be first….there is no seeing and understanding Them if we have not taken the time to understand ourselves first.  If we skip the “US” part than all we see of “THEM” is “US”.

Like Gauguin…close your eyes….focus…be surprised…but see!

And the fruit salad?….The good for us stuff.  We know…we are not stupid…what will work well for us.  Do we run to it and embrace it?…NO….we want Taco’s.   The spicy, tear up your stomach kind…everything but the kitchen sink kind. Forget stupid fruit salad.   Good for us?….sure….exciting?…..NOT.  Have it both ways…eat(drum roll)….. FRUIT TACOS.  Hey, you may be surprised at how well it will work and how well you will like it.  NO stress, tension, hate, anger, fear….just….easy, comfortable, loving, relationships.    Forever?…no, but then nothing lasts forever.  Do not worry, you get to  Know, See, and Eat…FRUIT TACOS….again tomorrow.