Tag Archives: paradox

Life as we know it!

10 Aug

Life….what we wake up to, what we sleep during, what we dream of.  Life….what we see as real.

My “life” changed last year.  In a split second or an hour…it changed.  What was, no longer…what I thought, no more…what I hoped, destroyed.

Why?  It never was all that to start with.  I was blind…I was ignorant…I saw what was not there.

New life?  Yes…trying…looking…hoping…loving…waiting.

Insights, visions, and fruit salad.

18 Jul

This has been a week of insights….not always what I want to know….visions…not always what I want to see….and fruit salad….I would much rather have tacos.

“Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness of other people.”….Carl Jung

It is oh….so easy to know how others fail us….yet, we have a hard time knowing how badly we really fail ourselves.  (*what we know about others is merely the transference of ourselves…on them.  ) Awesome don’t you think?    You must know your own dirt….it ain’t pretty folks….but it is real.  It will ground you to what is good….this “knowing” your own dirt.  It is not to be afraid of, but is to be embraced.  Funny thing, when you “know” your own “dirt” the other guy’s dirt makes more sense and really isn’t so bad.

“The question is not what you look at, but what you see.”…Henry David Thoreau

“I shut my eyes in order to see”….Paul Gauguin

If you don’t look at something….you surely won’t see it.  If you “see” in your mind…what it is…you may avoid looking at it….love this.  Fear again, will keep us from seeing all the wonders and good because we refused to look at what we are.  Seeing and understanding connections starts in seeing and understanding what we are connecting…Us and Them.  And Us needs to be first….there is no seeing and understanding Them if we have not taken the time to understand ourselves first.  If we skip the “US” part than all we see of “THEM” is “US”.

Like Gauguin…close your eyes….focus…be surprised…but see!

And the fruit salad?….The good for us stuff.  We know…we are not stupid…what will work well for us.  Do we run to it and embrace it?…NO….we want Taco’s.   The spicy, tear up your stomach kind…everything but the kitchen sink kind. Forget stupid fruit salad.   Good for us?….sure….exciting?…..NOT.  Have it both ways…eat(drum roll)….. FRUIT TACOS.  Hey, you may be surprised at how well it will work and how well you will like it.  NO stress, tension, hate, anger, fear….just….easy, comfortable, loving, relationships.    Forever?…no, but then nothing lasts forever.  Do not worry, you get to  Know, See, and Eat…FRUIT TACOS….again tomorrow.

Fast, faster, and fastest

10 Mar

Life is surely flying by at the speed of light these days.  It seems eons ago that I wrote here.

This week an awesome thing happened.  A business person, out of no where…I do not really know…stepped up to the plate and offered me help that blew me totally away.  She…I guess it is she…started in motion…a way for my business, to get out into the main stream…and give me a chance to survive and develop.  Why?…I asked her…

She said, when she started her business, there was no one to help her.  She was alone, making trial and error choices…and I got the feeling, having a hurtful time trying to succeed.  She has, as a result, helped others, who have come to her attention.  Like in the bible, she is sharing what she has with those who have not…or you can say… she is giving back.   All she asked, was that if I do succeed, that when the time comes…I too, “pay it forward”.  I, of course, agreed.

Why do some folks, feel a need, a responsibility … to give back, while obviously, others, see nothing but their own success and needs?  Why are there “good Samaritans” taking chances on others, while others are crossing to the other side of the path to avoid the needy?  This is a paradox…as old as time.  The chance taker, will actually “increase her wealth and expand her territory” while the others will slowly but surely fade away into nothing.   It is well documented and history proves this and yet some will still take the selfish path of avoidance.  Go figure.

In life, we have choices.  Our legacy, what we leave behind and forward as well…depends on our actions and reactions to situations.   We will decide to be charitable and helpful  or to be selfish and unfeeling.   In short, our life will add or detract.

I do not think I have the “big”ness this person has…yet…and I do not believe I have exhibited this same degree of “largesse” but I do feel that  I will develope and will be able to expand my heart to this degree.  I will be able to “see the need” and be able to fill it.   I believe it is what God intends and what He expects of me.